A divorce guide

Are you divorced?
Are you in the process of a divorce or are you considering getting divorced?
If yes; Would you like to share your reflections and learnings with me?


When I got divorced, I really could have used a guide to take me through all the steps of a divorce and all the things to consider at a time of one's life - and the life of one's children - when everything is turned upside down.


I didn't find what I was looking for and that's why I decided to create a divorce guide that supports people from clarification, decision making, through the divorce process and inspires to a new good life after a divorce.


I have received a lot of valuable reflections and learnings from people who would like to share their experiences in the guide. 

If you also want to share your experiences in the guide, I would appreciate your feedback by e-mail info@createanewlifenow.com. I collect reflections and feedback ongoing. Relevant feedback will be reproduced in the guide in anonymous form, see examples below.


My name is Inge Dall, and I'm looking forward hearing from you. 

A divorce guide

Your reflections and learnings are highly appreciated

Examples of reflections and learnings

1

Keep calm

The best advice I can give myself looking back is not to panic. I was afraid to be alone in everything. But it's only a phase you have to go through and it all works out.

Man 35y,
father of 3 children

Keep calm

The best advice I can give myself looking back is not to panic. I was afraid to be alone in everything. But it's only a phase you have to go through and it all works out.

Man 35y,
father of 3 children

4

Foregiveness

The best advice I can give is to forgive your ex and get on with your life. I was bitter for far too long and it affected not only my life negatively, but also the relationship with my children. I'm still working to change their perception of me and it's hard work.

Woman 39y,

Mother of 2 children

Foregiveness

The best advice I can give is to forgive your ex and get on with your life. I was bitter for far too long and it affected not only my life negatively, but also the relationship with my children. I'm still working to change their perception of me and it's hard work.

Woman 39y,

Mother of 2 children

7

Cultural differences

(Reflections needed)

Cultural differences

(Reflections needed)

2

Timing

looking back, I think we should have divorced two years earlier, so we would have avoided the violent squabbles of recent months.

Woman 41y,

mother of  2 children 

Timing

looking back, I think we should have divorced two years earlier, so we would have avoided the violent squabbles of recent months.

Woman 41y,

mother of  2 children 

5

Temper

I'm sorry I yelled so much at my ex-husband during the divorce, while our son was hearing. I wish I could have controlled my temper. Even though I was hurt and frustrated, I owe my son an apology.

Woman 51y,

mother of 1 child

Temper

I'm sorry I yelled so much at my ex-husband during the divorce, while our son was hearing. I wish I could have controlled my temper. Even though I was hurt and frustrated, I owe my son an apology.

Woman 51y,

mother of 1 child

8

Children

My parents have grown happier since the divorce, but I wish they could stay friends and that we could still do some things together sometimes.

Boy 13y,
Parents are divorced

Children

My parents have grown happier since the divorce, but I wish they could stay friends and that we could still do some things together sometimes.

Boy 13y,
Parents are divorced

3

Comfort dining

I wish I had sought help from a psychologist faster in the process because I felt so mentally weak. Then I would have avoided putting on 20kg because of comfort eating - and thus had one less thing to worry about.

Woman 39y,

mother of 2 children

Comfort dining

I wish I had sought help from a psychologist faster in the process because I felt so mentally weak. Then I would have avoided putting on 20kg because of comfort eating - and thus had one less thing to worry about.

Woman 39y,

mother of 2 children

6

Investment

I've learned that I have to take better care of my partner so that you play each other better. Had I done so, I could very likely have avoided getting divorced.

Man 48 y,
Father of 3 children

Investment

I've learned that I have to take better care of my partner so that you play each other better. Had I done so, I could very likely have avoided getting divorced.

Man 48 y,
Father of 3 children

7

Narcissism

My ex is a narcissist and unfortunately I understood that very late in the process. I wish I'd known the signs of a narcissist's behavior so I could seek help before I'd run too far down mentally, I felt like I wasn't worth anything. For me, it was a huge sadness that our family had to dissolve, I took it as a defeat and blamed myself. Had I known the signs of a narcissist, I would have known it wasn't me who was wrong and I could have come out of the relationship earlier – especially for the benefit of my children.

Woman 49y,
Mother of 2 children

Narcissism

My ex is a narcissist and unfortunately I understood that very late in the process. I wish I'd known the signs of a narcissist's behavior so I could seek help before I'd run too far down mentally, I felt like I wasn't worth anything. For me, it was a huge sadness that our family had to dissolve, I took it as a defeat and blamed myself. Had I known the signs of a narcissist, I would have known it wasn't me who was wrong and I could have come out of the relationship earlier – especially for the benefit of my children.

Woman 49y,
Mother of 2 children